I think most folks who regularly read my blog will agree that I try to not be too doctrinaire in my thinking about this controversial issue. I try hard to see both sides, much to the chagrin of some of my colleagues in the pro-choice movement. As the Director of the National Coalition of Abortion Providers, I regularly met with pro-life leaders in an effort to create an educational dialogue. Whether or not I succeeded is a question mark, but I felt good about what I was doing.

So, now, I’m gonna step out of character for a moment. I’ve got to get something off my mind. Something recently crossed my desk that has totally disgusted me. It’s something perpetuated by some I know/knew in the pro-life movement, someone that I thought at least had a sliver of humanity in her.

Somewhere during the course of her day a short while ago, Ms. Janet Morena of Priests for Life found out that a woman from ENGLAND was 30 weeks pregnant and had travelled to the United States to abort her pregnancy. It seems that a local pro-lifer in Albuquerque, New Mexico – who clearly has nothing else to do – somehow found out that this woman was there seeking an abortion. Imagine that for a minute – some guy hanging out near the clinic sniffing around looking for a vulnerable woman who had just taken the extraordinary step of flying all the way here for such a sad occasion. This pro-lifer even found out, so he says, that she was being pressured by her “radically pro-abortion father.” Meanwhile, the woman’s mother, who opposed the abortion, was seeking help and that’s when Janet became involved.

Like a good, loving Christian, Janet issued an urgent please to pro-lifers in her network:

“Urgent prayer needed! A 20-year-old woman from Great Britain is on her way to New Mexico to abort her baby. She is 30 weeks pregnant. Her mother in Great Britain and her uncle in Spain have reached out to Priests for Life for our help and prayer. She is in Atlanta now, aware that she and her father will be prosecuted when they return home, because it is illegal in the UK to go to another country for an abortion. She is going to pay $12,000 to kill this almost full-term baby at Southwestern Women’s Options in Albuquerque on Tuesday. Please pray for Emily and her baby.”

If they had the money, I have no doubt that PFL would have bought a full page ad in the New York Times. If they had the name of the woman, they would have plastered the name of the woman all over the place in an effort to “help” her.

I have no idea what the situation was with the pregnancy. But if she were, in fact, 30 weeks pregnant, either her life was in danger or there was some kind of fetal abnormality. Of course, some in Janet’s movement no doubt assumed that she was having the abortion because she couldn’t fit into her prom dress. They would never put themselves in her shoes and think about the incredibly difficult situation the woman was in and how excruciating the decision must have been. No, the pro-lifers just had to try to intervene in this most private of moments.

But there’s another chapter to this story.

I recently learned that the woman had had her abortion – and my first reaction was a silent cheer. “We won!” I thought for a sick moment. I was suddenly part of the war again. I ultimately came to my senses but…

Disgusting. Absolutely disgusting.